Stop Comparing Start Living

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Do you have a tendency of comparing your Job Title with your schoolmate's or college mate’s Job Title? Do you see at the model of the car or the type of gadgets when you make visit to your friend's house? Do you often think the reason of your friend happiness is the new property he/she bought? Do you run guess work on the Salary of your friends or peers in the office? If it is so, you are suffering from a disease, of which probably I don't know the name of. But this article can help you (somewhat) to get rid of it.

If you want to be happier in where you are then just try this - Stop Comparison! If you'll try it, for sure it will make a huge difference in looking at your life, and living it in a way it is supposed to. Most people I have met, have trouble with their jobs or relationships or (if not anything else for sure) the boss at work. Why? Because they 'Compare' their job or relationship or boss with some 'Ideal entity in their imagination'.

If you are suffering with the problem of comparison, your mind will generate all negative thoughts for the entity (job or relation or boss), and going through this for a longer period of time reduces your 'Thinking Bandwidth' such that whenever you Think Next, you think negative.

To overcome this, flip the way you think. Try this - Think what is positive about your job - Is it giving you opportunity to work with most powerful brands? How many people in the market are willing to come and work at place you are? Similarly think positive side of your relationships & your boss.

It is pretty difficult to overcome the 'Comparison' quickly. So I suggest it is better to compare the reverse way. Take a sheet of paper, and write down the things your friend or peer doesn't have. And more precisely write non-materialistic things first like 'Caring Spouse', 'Living with Parents', 'Childhood you had', 'Time you spend with Family', 'Some skills you have like - painting, singing', 'Things you are passionate about' etc. And then write a header on this sheet "Exclusive to my Life" & then stick this sheet somewhere in your Bathroom (preferably right adjacent to mirror where you brush your teeth), to have a refreshing kick start every day.

Remember, in 'The Race of your Life', you compete in getting better with 'Yourself' and not somebody else, after all this is 'Your Life' not anybody else’s. So why let anybody ruin 'Your Life'? And every day in this race either 'You WIN' from yourself or 'You Learn' for yourself.